Would it make you cringe if someone thought what you thought about yourself? That you were: Lazy? Rude? Ignorant? Selfish? What is it for you??? These are "unwanted identities". They're ways in which you NEVER want to be seen. Most of us do our best to avoid unwanted identities at all costs. That's admirable until it leaves you saying yes when you don’t want to, people pleasing, feeling like you’re dropping the ball or totally overwhelmed. AND... Unwanted identities can lead

What happens when a friend doesn’t respond to a text? Do you assume she’s busy & forgot? Or does the idea that she’s avoiding you or upset with you just keep showing up in the back of your mind? And then you start searching for why she might be avoiding you & fall down that super fun rabbit hole. What about when your sister comments on how she’d do the thing you're working on? Do you find it helpful or do you start wondering if she thinks you're an idiot who can’t tie her own

“Your posts make me feel like I’m not alone”. I loved seeing that message show up in my in-box. This work is what I live for. Watching my clients experience transformations that impact their earnings, careers, & relationships lights me the hell up. So, you bet I was stoked to hear that a reader could see that she wasn’t the only one having an experience. Shame starts to creep in when you feel like you’re the one who’s different. People generally don’t talk about the hard stuf

Why can’t my kids do what they’re told without all the drama like my sister’s kids?! None of my friends are going through this kind of turmoil with their parents. Why is mine the only one that’s had major medical problems for years?! It’s exhausting. If only my boss would actually communicate what she wants. 🙄 I just wish my husband was romantic…or handy…or made more money…or whatever the thing is that you wish were different about him. One of the brilliant women inside

I don’t keep junk food in the house. I can’t trust myself to have cookies or chips around. I signed up for that course, but life got in the way & I never finished it. I really want to go to pilates, but something always comes up. How many times do you say something like this to yourself? I’d bet $100 that when someone is counting on you to show up or finish something you DO it. How would your friends or colleagues describe you? Dependable? Reliable? Trustworthy? And yet the p