Have you ever felt this way? As the child of South Asian immigrants in a nearly all white Chicago suburb, Neha Sampat often felt excluded & like many other immigrant families did whatever was necessary to assimilate. She cared so much about what other people thought, she lost track of her own opinions. What would happen if you stopped listening to others and started listening to you? I know you don’t want to piss people off, it’s scary as hell! In this episode of Stop Shouldi

Katy has wondered for YEARS why she feels like crap after a visit with her sister. Her sister is the “successful one”. When Katy’s around her she finds herself over-explaining her life choices. Kind of (ahem) justifying being single & taking a career path that’s different from the rest of the family. She feels judged. She’s judging her sister’s choices. AND she’s judging herself. There’s no room for connection & enjoyment just judging, comparing, & proving. It’s exhausting. N

When Brigette's marriage imploded it gave her the opportunity to re-evaluate. As things were falling apart, she was still highly functional at work & keeping the divorce under wraps- but in her personal life she was just getting by. She was on autopilot, running so fast that she wasn’t paying attention. By responding to what she thought she should do...be more involved with the PTA, be more engaged at work, etc. She realized she was living someone else’s to-do list. A simple