My friend Karen was the poster child for a type A, overachieving, people pleaser. She never spoke out and did exactly what was expected of her. Then she was diagnosed with breast cancer at 25 years old. Seemingly overnight she transformed into a badass. Her attitude was “I don’t have time for BS anymore!” She started speaking her mind, advocating for herself, and setting boundaries. I am still in awe of the way she turned a crisis into courage. But, here is the thing...it doe

Most of what we are afraid of hasn't happened yet or isn't happening to us in this moment. Let's take COVID-19 for example. Most of us are hearing about the scary stuff from the comfort of our homes, where we likely have food and supplies. It's the "what if" that is causing the fear... But, the truth is for most of us that "what if" isn't happening to us right now. We are feeling stress from events that may or may not happen to us. Our brains are wired to worry and be on aler

What stops you from going after your dreams? I asked this in my Facebook group recently. The responses ranged from not feeling good enough, to lack of confidence, family obligations, and fear of both success and failure. Here is what is interesting, all of the responses were based in fear. Fear of not being enough, of what will happen, of judgement...you get the picture. What I shared with the women in my group and what I want you to hear loud and clear is that all of that fe

"Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be to be accepted. Belonging, on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are.” Brene Brown I just got back from a week in gorgeous Akumal Mexico with a group of about 30 people.  They’ve traveled together before. I was always intimidated to join them. I’m introverted, I need down time to recharge. Too much socializing and group time can be exhausting. While th