A colleague shared recently that she just feels in despair It’s hard to have the kids home & monitor their schooling. It’s hard to feel uncertain about the state of the government here in the U.S. And it’s really hard to get excited about the upcoming holiday season when you’re… Wondering if you should you see family or not? Fearing what will happen with the economy or unemployment. Feeling isolated. Thanksgiving is a time for gratitude. When you can’t find it, you can feel l

Sheltering at home alone in the pandemic was making my client Christy feel lousy. The isolation confirmed how much she wants a partner in her life. She found herself stewing in frustration that she always finds herself in the “friend zone”. I could hear the “WTH is wrong with me” in her voice as she described it. As we unpacked this, Christy had some harsh self-critical thoughts playing on constant repeat in her mind. She shared how a previous romantic relationship shifted to

You’ve heard the term self-acceptance before… It’s usually lumped in with just “love & accept yourself”. I know because I’m sure I’ve said something like that in the past. But, I heard the term "self-acceptance" recently & it really pissed me off. I don’t want you to “accept” yourself like you’re a piece of furniture with a ding on the corner. It reminds me of when diversity training used to be called tolerance training*. WTAF?! Tolerating other humans should be reserved only

"We can only accept the amount of love from others that we have for ourselves" Kara Lowentheil Hearing this for the first time turned me on my head. 🤯 Women get the message in subtle (& not so subtle ways) that we should put everyone else’s needs first. Being selfless is admirable. That our value is tied to doing. Women AREN'T taught that we are worthy in & of ourselves. In our society, women, minorities, the LGBTQ community, disabled people, and others that I’m sure I’ve mi