You’ve heard me say this before, but it’s worth repeating ESPECIALLY now-the best way to get through negative emotions is to FEEL them. I know you’re thinking WTH Jen, seriously?! I KNOW you’d rather eat a pint of Ben & Jerry’s then listen to your Dad remind you AGAIN that your decision to leave a “good paying job” is nut balls even though deep down you knew that soul sucking job was killing you. Or how your head feels like it’s going to explode when your kiddo reports on how
You hear me say all the time that it’s your thoughts that are making you feel lousy.
Not what your husband said.
Not what your boss did.
It’s what you’re telling yourself about those things that cause you to feel a certain way.
So, when I shared last week that I DECIDED ON PURPOSE to stop telling myself that I was a pain in the ass for asking for what I wanted, some of you wanted to know what thoughts I used instead.
As I waited in a coffee shop
I’m really particular about my tea - I’m married to an Englishman, so I blame him. After a full day at a retreat, I wanted to sit with a good cup of tea before dinner. I was driving two other people around who didn’t want a drink, but seemed fine waiting for me to pop in & pick up my mobile order. But, my mobile order wasn’t ready so I waited & waited &… The people pleaser in me was antsy that I was making other people wait. Then I saw the barista pick up the milk. This step
I’ve been embracing empty nesting, starting to remember who I was before kids.
Then they both came home, at the same time, for the first time - bringing with them laughter, joy, & these new versions of the women they’re becoming. I LOVED it.
Then just like that the holiday was over & they went back to school.
We humans are complex creatures, we can hold conflicting emotions at the same time:
Sadness & gratitude.
Joy & disappointment.
Comfort & longing.
Today I’m wal