A lake house vacation with another family sounded so good to Kim when she planned it. They’d be right on the water. There would be sun, swimming, & the kids could entertain each other-aaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh. She couldn’t wait to relax, have fun with the kids, catch up with her friends (& her husband ) & take a break from the stress of work. Unfortunately she didn’t let herself have any of those things. As we unpacked her experience in her 1:1 coaching session, I could hear

You were snippy, sarcastic, & kind of rude toward your sister when she shared-again-how your boyfriend should be interacting with the family. You threatened -loudly- to chuck the whole pile of crap out the nearest window when your teenager dumped her jacket, backpack, & shoes in a heap in the entryway. You lost your cool when your boss didn’t respond to the plans you emailed & then rearranged the entire agenda without consulting you. And thought about it all. night. long. Thi

We all want to be liked, that’s normal. A friend reminded me that only a sociopath really doesn’t care what anyone thinks of them. Wanting to be liked becomes a problem when you’re trying to be a certain way so that no one will think you’re too… Much. Loud. Boring. Incapable. Lazy. A lousy mom, friend, daughter, partner, employee...human!! This is when you start trying to prove yourself by overworking. Or overcommitting to things you don’t actually want to do to make sure no