Janet has a good marriage, but she wanted her husband to be more enthusiastic about doing things with her on the weekend. She wanted him to plan activities & be excited about going with her. As we worked through her frustration a couple of things became clear… Janet was making her husband’s lack of enthusiasm mean that he didn’t want to spend time with her, which-spoiler alert-was not the case. And, second when I asked her what it was she wanted to do, she didn’t have an answ

I'm 51. I lost my virginity at 15. On August 15. I saw that date on the calendar & noticed the play between numbers 15 & 51. I love seeing repeated or connected numbers. It got me thinking about that 15-year-old girl. She was so young. And desperate. For love... Attention... Connection... To feel like she mattered. I didn't know it at the time, but somewhere deep down sex & love were all mixed up. I think I believed that if I had sex it would solidify something & I'd be deepl

I’m lucky to have a couple of friends who are fooooodies & great cooks. When I grew up, you were the damn hero if you brought a bucket of extra crispy KFC to a potluck! My foodie friends probably would’ve high fived me if I had. But, there was a time in my life when not being able to do what they did left me feeling like a loser. I would stress myself out trying to decide what to make for a potluck. For.a.potluck. I could’ve just gone to the drive through at KFC, but I was af