How would you never want to be seen? Is it something like... Lazy Rude Ignorant Selfish What is it for you? These are "unwanted identities". Most of us do our best to avoid looking this way; which is admirable...until it's gripping or overwhelming. Unwanted identities can lead us right into shame. For example, imagine you do your best in general not to be a jerk & then you're short with someone. What does that bring up? Bingo! It can lead to feeling like being a bad person ra

I shared with a client recently that I don’t attend back to school nights at my kids’ high school anymore. She was surprised that I don’t go & asked how I stopped? If my kiddo has a problem, I’m not going to talk about it in a room with 20 other parents. I’ll make an appointment to speak privately. I’d rather not rush from work, make dinner etc to get to the 5:00 start time. It’s not how I want to spend my evening.  If you think I’m wrong, that’s ok. That’s your business. No