I heard a fitness instructor say today that exercise isn’t a punishment. You don’t HAVE TO do this, you GET TO. Being able to move your body is a privilege. Damn. What a way to reframe. In this wonky year of 2020-with bad news daily-it can be hard to find the good. But, science shows us that gratitude increases happiness & combats depression. So, how do we marry the funk that we're in with what we know will help-at a time when feeling grateful may be a challenge? What if we t

If a friend doesn’t respond to a text, what does that make you think? You might think she was busy & forgot to respond. No big deal. BUT, if you’d recently had a touchy or awkward conversation what would your thoughts be like? My client Mindy declined a Thanksgiving invitation because of COVID concerns. She texted her friend who was hosting & hadn’t heard back. Her conclusion was “I know where I stand”. Would you have had a similar thought? Put yourself in Mindy’s shoes. She

Did your family project an image to the world that was completely counter to what went on at home? If so, you’re NOT alone! To friends & acquaintances Mary’s family was “perfect”. Her Dad was charming & her mom was well liked. They’d show up to church well dressed & well mannered- heck her father even participated in the services. They were revered. But, what happened at home was entirely different. There was manipulation, verbal abuse, & shame. In a private coaching session,

This time of year can feel like magic and it can also be a time of stress and sadness; particularly this year where many of us are staying distanced. It may sound counterintuitive, but the best way to get through negative emotions is to feel them. I get it, you don’t want to feel them-you’d rather avoid them at all costs-but the truth is, pushing emotions away only makes the come back with a vengeance. Think of pushing away feelings like a dam-the water just builds up behind

Holidays without her mom are an entirely different experience for my client Kelly. And she’s NOT looking forward them. It’s been a few years since her mother passed & this feeling of dread comes up every time. This may not be your experience, but the holidays can bring up a rollercoaster of emotions. And this wonky year will be NO exception. Have you ever asked yourself how you want to feel? Kelly doesn’t want to feel dread, but she thinks it’s out of her control. How do you