For much of my life I was controlled by my inner critic (that terrible voice in the back of our minds). I learned the rules, tried not to break them or rock the boat and spent way too much time worrying about what other people thought. Fast forward to 2000 when I had my first child and motherhood cracked open a perfectionist dictator in me like the world had never seen. I didn't know it at the time, but I created some ridiculously high standards about what it meant to be the perfect wife, mother, friend, woman, decorator, cook, professional, PTA mom...you get the picture. I could never measure up, I was never good enough. I let the pursuit of these crazy ideals suck the joy right out of my life. I felt buried under the weight of responsibility and my to-do list.
When I decided to live authentically as me, to stop laying awake at night worrying about some "stupid" thing I said or did, to speak my mind and make myself a priority everything changed. I'm not going to sugar-coat it, getting back to me was work. And that work continues, I am constantly learning and growing. But, it was so worth it. Now I am on a mission to help other women shed their people-pleasing good girl ways and take back their joy. I have seen first hand the difference in my own life. I say what I think, I set boundaries, I say NO to things that don't serve me, instead of saying yes out of obligation. Life is a whole lot more FUN these days.
If you've ever wrestled with your perfectionist, if you've felt inadequate, if you're inner critic has gone utterly crazy telling you that Susie down the street has no trouble managing work, home, family and still looks good in her designer yoga pants. So, what the hell is wrong with you?! I am here to tell you, there is nothing wrong with you. Clearly I know a thing or two about this. If you do too, let's talk! You can use the form below to send me an email or hit the schedule appointment button to set up a free strategy session with me.
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On the lighter side...
I am a mom to two witty, spunky, and strong girls. I've been married to my best friend and biggest cheerleader for almost twenty years. I love to laugh. I crack myself up all the time, it's ridiculous. We have two geriatric cats who are twenty years old and a 2-year-old Golden Doodle pup who keeps everybody on their toes, especially the cats, who really don't like to move around a lot. I am wickedly addicted to tea with milk; my husband is English, I blame him. I will stop what I am doing if Titanic or Twister is on TV. No comments please. I love to sing in the car and think it is a crime if Journey or Boston comes on the radio and you do not turn it up and sing along, loudly.
I am a certified coach, speaker and writer. Coach training rocked my world and introduced me to some of the most incredible women I have ever met. If I am not the right coach for you, chances are I know someone who just might be. I have a master's degree in audiology (hearing science) and spent my previous career as a pediatric audiologist, which means I know something about working with families in difficult situations.