I love to get into the “why” behind what my clients are doing. What’s the motivation? What’s driving their behavior? When they’re frustrated or overwhelmed, asking them to remember their why is a great way to come back to what’s important to them. One of my clients is a middle school teacher who is passionate about making an impact on her students. When she’s had a tough day, it can be super helpful to remind herself WHY she shows up every day. AND it’s equally important to s

Somehow the holidays became a chore. They’re often stressful, rushed and NOT about enjoyment. When tensions are high from family dynamics, trying to get it all just right, or feeling completely overwhelmed, that’s a recipe for losing our shit on the people closest to us. Maybe it’s too late for you to feel comfortable changing holiday plans, but it’s never too late to change how YOU experience them. Feelings come directly from what you’re thinking. If I look back on a Thanksg

I often introduce myself at work related functions like I’m at a 12-step meeting: “Hi, I’m Jen a recovering people pleaser/perfectionist”. I’m sure those of you who’ve been around here for a bit have heard me say that before! “Recovering” means I’ve worked damn hard to stop people pleasing and trying to get it all exactly right. While my perfectionist hasn’t been banished, she & I have come to a roommate's agreement of sorts and get along much better these days. But, you can