Where Are You Trying To Prove Yourself In Your Life?
Katy has wondered for YEARS why she feels like crap after a visit with her sister.
Her sister is the “successful one”.
When Katy’s around her she finds herself over-explaining her life choices.
Kind of (ahem) justifying being single & taking a career path that’s different from the rest of the family.
She feels judged. She’s judging her sister’s choices. AND she’s judging herself.
There’s no room for connection & enjoyment just judging, comparing, & proving.
It’s exhausting. No wonder she feels like crap.
But, here’s the real question…who is she actually trying to convince?
When Katy feels judged, it’s because a part of her believes whatever her sister is saying.
If she didn’t believe it, the snide comments wouldn’t impact her.
If her sister said “Katy you’re such a lousy bus driver”. Katy might think it’s a weird comment because she’s a graphic designer & not a bus driver.
It wouldn’t bother her, because no part of her identifies as a bus driver & wouldn’t be offended.
BUUUUUUUTTTTTT if Katy’s sister said or even implied that being single was somehow a negative it just would probably touch a nerve. It’s likely a version of a conversation that Katy’s had in her head a million times. Logically she knows it’s not true, but a part of her believes that maybe it is her fault or she’s less than for not having a partner-like everyone else.
So, she ramps up the explaining & convincing for both of them! And spirals into some choice words in her mind about her sister’s life and how she’d never want that!
Does any of this sound familiar?
Where are you judging & proving?
The truth is the only person Katy (or any of us) needs to “convince” is herself.
Katy & I are untangling the beliefs that are pushing her to prove. Is she the round peg in a square hole where her family is concerned? Yep. The trick is learning to embrace the round peg for all that she is and that’s exactly what we’re working on.
If you’re ready to stop trying to convince others. If you’re ready to let their opinions fall away & not impact you, let’s talk.
Having someone to help you see what’s actually happening & teach you simple, actionable tools is the fastest and most effective way to get to the other side. I can help with that.
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