How Does that Help?!

My 19-year-old daughter moved to Orlando just about a week ago.

As I write this, Hurricane Dorian is heading in that direction.

She, like me, is a California girl born and raised. We know how to duck and cover for an earthquake, I don’t know how helpful that is in a hurricane.

I do know what is not helpful, and that is me worrying.

I’m 3,000 miles away. How is my watching the news, fretting and losing sleep beneficial to her?

To some this may seem cold. If I’m not worrying about her I don’t care.

I used to think that too. But, it’s just not true. Worry does not equal love or caring. It's just fear taking over.

My lack of worrying is actually kind to me and to her. Imagine how much worse it would be for her to have me calling and texting from a place of fear and frenzy.

Let me say that again, my lack of worry is kind to both of us.

So I wonder, where can you be kinder to you? It might not be obvious, like worrying wasn’t to me at first.

Share in the comments, I’d love to know what comes up for you.

And to all of you in the path of Dorian I am thinking of you and sending so much love.