Just Double Checking
Janet tried to make sure every i was dotted and every t was crossed. She left nothing to chance and it took SO MUCH ENERGY.
She would check and recheck her projects at work before sending them to her team. Sometimes she’d just double check really quick before bed knowing she’d have a chance to triple check in the morning.
Was she just really conscientious OR was she getting everything just right to try and avoid any judgements or negative responses?
As we unpacked this tendency we discovered that deep down Janet really did not want to be criticized. When a colleague or superior was unhappy with her work she took it to heart and in her mind it was tantamount to failure.
Let’s be honest, I don’t know anyone who LIKES to be criticized.
But, Janet wanted to avoid it at all costs...which included her time and her peace of mind.
When we got really clear, there weren’t any huge disasters when she’d made mistakes in the past. Janet needed to believe that her work was good and mistakes didn’t mean imminent disaster. She needed to trust herself.
Once she was willing to put down striving for absolute perfection in her work and the overarching fears of making a mistake Janet’s work life and personal life was much less encumbered. The more she trusted and let her work speak for itself the more she let go and gained back in terms of time and peace of mind.
Do you have a little Janet in you? Tell me where she gets in your way. And if you’d like some help identifying how to ease up on yourself let’s talk. Tell me where she gets in your way. And if you’d like some help identifying how to ease up on yourself let’s talk. Go here to schedule a free strategy session. We will hone in on where your inner Janet is getting in your way and come up with one simple shift to move her out of your way.