Confronting Our Fear of Judgement - And Getting the Help You Deserve
I'd bet money that you'd drop everything if a friend needed help.
But, what happens when YOU need something? Do you google? Muddle through? Figure it out?
Why don't you ask for help or input when you need it? What are you thinking when you decide you’ll just muscle through?
Maybe it’s a belief that you're capable & can figure it out. Or maybe it comes from not wanting to be seen as incompetent or like you can’t handle it?
Most of the women I work with DO NOT WANT TO BE JUDGED.
Who does?! 🙄
We don’t want anyone to see our “weaknesses”.
But, let's turn that around...if you’re not a doctor is it a weakness to not be able to perform surgery? Or to go to medical school to learn how?
And if your doctor friend was tired from a shift & wanted help getting dinner on the table I doubt you’d see her as weak, you’d see her as human.
So, why then do you beat yourself up for what you don’t know or when the load you’ve been carrying becomes too heavy?
What are you making it mean that you can’t do it all yourself?
What I see after working with loads of women is that we believe we are supposed to be able to do it all (without losing our minds) & when we can’t, that means something is wrong with us.
I call BS!
No one is good at everything & no one can balance all of the demands of life, work, & family alone.
We need connections, we need space, AND we need to be able to put down what we are carrying.
Can you imagine what our relationships would be like if we stopped hiding this & just GOT REAL?!
I think there would be way more genuine connection & less feeling like crap!
Are you game to try?
Let's start 2023 off on a new note.
No more hiding or making ourselves feel like crap.